Considering your own set of rules? Check out those our family tries to live by.
The other day, as my kids ate breakfast before school, their occasional cattiness ensued. It was nothing bad — certainly nothing different that what I experienced with my three siblings while growing up — but it wasn’t nice. One was bragging, one made fun of another’s word pronunciation and the other’s competitive dander was up.
I realize that doesn’t shed a favorable light on my kids, who are actually pretty great. They’re just kids though and they need some guidelines or rules of engagement to lead them to the right path. That’s our job; creating family rules that steer our interactions and make us better — for each other and for the world. Considering your own set of rules? Check out those our family tries to live by.
Be a team
This is the pinnacle of house rules for me. As a family, we’re all members of the same team. When something good happens to one of us, it happens to us all. When a challenge arises, we help each other get through. We cheer each other on during important moments; we don’t find ways to get out of them. We build each other up.
If you know better, do better
Life is all about learning and I hope our learning never ends. That said, once we have a revelation or a light bulb moment, we should avoid making the same mistake again. Just like a few sparks taught me never to cook while wearing a scarf, my little guy learned that overstuffing the toilet with tissue is a really bad plan. Now we do better.
Enjoy this moment (aka love what you have)
My kids are famous for asking me about what’s next smack in the middle of a good time. I’m sure the ability to be present comes with age, but if I can help them achieve it any earlier than I did, they’ll be ahead of the game. I believe that if you don’t love what you have, including the moment you’re in, you’ll always be somewhat unsatisfied, somewhat living in the future or the past. You’ll be in the wrong place. It’s my goal to keep us wherever we are.
Do your best work, not your fastest
For busy adults with far too much on their plates, fast is phenomenal. Speediness is king. Or is it? Just as kids allow for careless errors on math tests or miss an open book question on a quiz, adults lose focus and falter in the same ways. Slowing down and doing our best is a daily goal for our clan.
With your team at your back, your learned wisdom captured and your mind focused in the moment, your family can give its best in all of life’s experiences.
Molly Logan Anderson is a writer, wife and mom of three who lives in the Chicago suburbs. Intent on finding good in every day through her website www.GrabTheGood.com, she hopes to help others do the same. Visit her there to receive her humorous and heartwarming take on life via your inbox. Good family, good advice, good causes and good humor - Molly is writing about it all.